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The Many Layers of Misty Marie: From Extensions to Entrepreneurial Wisdom

• Quincy Tessaverne

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🌈 Discover a new level of beauty empowerment with Misty Marie! Dive into her expert insights on Great Lengths extensions, her non-gender conforming identity, and the spicy details of her latest venture, 'No Tulips.' Catch it all on Cocoon After Dark! 💥🎧 #Podcast #InclusiveBeauty #Entrepreneurship

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Quincy:

Misty Marie Hales from Texas, but has lived here in LA since 2022. With this successful career, spanning over two decades as a master hairstylist with credits to her name, working on Ginny in Georgia, season three, swimsuit Designer and newly launched two lips, which we'll talk about later. She has three incredible humans and is a pro at great length extensions So much more. But welcome to Cocoon After Dark thank you for coming. So firstly, who do you think shaped you to be the misty you are today in regards to sexuality, business, entrepreneurship, parenthood,

Misty:

All together, family and society shapes you and to the character you become. But growing up, I would say my foundation, was definitely I had incredible male role models and so I'm extremely soft, but extremely masculine at the same time. And so I would say, probably, yeah, my small family.

Speaker 6:

Yeah. Who raised you?

Misty:

Mainly my dad and his parents. My dad was a super young dad. He is incredible. But he had a kid at 18, so he didn't know much. And I had incredible grandparents that overfilled my love cup. And definitely shaped me into a lot of what I am today and my aunt who didn't have kids, but kind of raised me as her little one too. But my grandpa was a mayor of the town I'm from and was a municipal judge and the amount of things he did in his whole life, kind of set a bar, for I guess me and just wanting to constantly go to the next step. And a lot of times I would be super overwhelmed and he would say, sweetie, you could do it there. You can absolutely do that. That's lazy. And I would be like, oh my gosh, that is lazy. I can do that. So I would say a lot of, probably my grandparents, my nana was always into beauty stuff. She's definitely. A southern Texas woman that likes to have makeup as soon as she goes out and that set, my hair and beauty world.

Quincy:

That's so cute. I love that. I love that. So for her stylist, like yourself, what provocative stories aren't just about scissors and dye and extensions, but they're more about what happens around the chair.

Misty:

Around the chair? Yeah. Oh, I don't know about around the chair, but there's always, you know, I've gone through divorces with clients, babies. I've been with them up and down. I've done clients that I'm attracted to and they're attracted to me and it's a very awkward like. Interaction of me that close to them and them, you know, just saying, my gosh, you smells so nice, and we know we can't cross that boundary because that's what it is. But there's a lot of times that does happen and so you just stay very business. I've never slept with a client or. Anything like that, but flirty, definitely.

Speaker 6:

Yeah. So you've never dated any clients?

Misty:

No.

Speaker 6:

Wow. No.

Misty:

And there's even still some, um, even now that I do that I'm still real flirty with, but never acted on.

Quincy:

So you're so professional. How do you think you maintain that professionalism while also being so tempted to like, you know. Sleep with them or go out to dinner or take a trip or whatever.

Misty:

I don't think it takes much control to not do what you don't wanna do.

Quincy:

True.

Misty:

So I don't do it. I love flirting I can flirt with a Starbucks barista. I think it is just natural. But I'm a love poor and a lot of times, um. Some people, I can just look at them. They're like I need this. But I just love to pour. Not that I want them in that way. But I just love to make them feel loved. And not in a sexual way. But just I want them to intervene in their hearts to feel how much I love them.

Speaker 6:

Right, right. Yeah. I think like over the years, especially now having the same hairstylist since. Probably like 2012 or 2011. I've, I've definitely gone through points where I thought to myself, you know, I don't need to spend this much money, or I could go to somebody else, but why? You know, we already have a relationship and things like that, but you know, I only have to see her. Every three weeks or six weeks or something. But still, she's someone that's a confidant to me. Yes. You know? And I know that even if she tells somebody else, she never uses my name. So it's not like, Hey, my client Quincy that just got out of the chair, you know? So I feel safe telling her so many different things. But for you, what was the most shocking thing that someone told you in the chair? And did it change the way that you saw them afterwards or did it make you say. You know, when you talked about divorcing clients, was it you divorcing the client or was it them, you know, moving on or?

Misty:

I mean, of course there's been comments to me that have made me feel kind of awkward. Um, a lot of times it's their energy that would make me feel more weird than anything. But from someone saying something, probably not while I was at work.

Speaker 4:

Yeah.

Misty:

Um, I feel like when I'm at work, I'm pretty quiet. I don't talk tons unless they open up a conversation, but I kind of just let them. Release, whatever it is, and we talk about it and, um, I boost them. I don't really steer them in negative ways. Um, I just try to, um, I usually wake up super positive and so that even goes into my work. And I've done couples for years and. I had a couple, uh, a long time ago, and they went through a breakup and every time he would come in, he was just like asking about her. And she would come in, she would ask about him, and I'm just like, oh my gosh. And I had to fire one of

Speaker 4:

em. Mm-hmm.

Misty:

And I had done her for a very long time, and so we knew who had to go, and he was driving from Oklahoma to Texas to get his hair cut. Oh. And I'm like, Hey, Jeff. I've enjoyed our conversations for a long time, but. This is it. I don't wanna be in the middle of drama. Yeah. I don't mind talking to you both about it, but I definitely don't wanna be in the middle of it. So, but I, I cut lots of families and a lot of times people break up, they still come to me. And um, like you said, you build relationships. Even though I live in la, people will wait till I fly back to Texas to get their hair cut. I mean, my men that have gone. Every week for a haircut. They're waiting like three weeks to where they have a little mini ponytail and I'm like, holy cow, Jim, where did you get all this hair? And, but you build a relationship and they're just like, Misty, I just can't imagine going to someone else. You know, my, my hair and I don't really cut tons of hair here anymore. I do more red carpet styling or event styling. So. When I go home, it's my regulars that I've literally had for decades, and so it is their appointment time of us catching up and filling in, but there's never like.

Quincy:

Inappropriate. So no one's ever like not directed towards you maybe. But that has said something else that where you were like, oh my God. Like I can't believe they just told me that. I can't believe they just did that, or

Misty:

I don't know that it would be that. It probably, like when I first met Susie I think I told you, which.. I love everybody there. Um, but when I met Susie one of the things she said that was the wildest shit anyone's ever told me was she was like, aunt. She's like, tell me about the restaurants around there.'cause I'm new. She's like, and there's a kitty cafe, but you ever wanna put my pussy here? And I'm like, but I know she's joking. Oh, totally joking. But that set the tone of like, holy cow, no one's ever said something like that to me. I love that so much because it's all said in, in love, you know?,

Quincy:

That's so funny. But yeah,

Misty:

that's probably the wildest thing. I,

Quincy:

what's the most radical transformation that someone wanted with their makeup, their hair extensions, What was like the most,

Misty:

I mean, I do radical makeovers. Usually that's extensions And the majority of people that come to me aren't like your typical. Um, they want long bouncy, like mermaid hair. It's women that have had fucked up haircuts and they're like, help, what, what do I do with this ducktail? And so I spend hours transforming that and so they can get. Their confidence back. And one of my old friends I just did in Texas and her husband they're going through a weird phase in their marriage and she's like, Missy, I just wanna feel like good again. I feel frumpy with my haircut. Like I want length or something. And so we just created a new character. And so once you create a new character, that's when the reset is. So now she's a new character with this. New hair.

Quincy:

Wow. What has she said she's like feeling now that she's been transformed?

Misty:

I mean, she loves it. She's never had that. She's never had, she has incredible hair, but she just cut it. Like she said, I was so focused on me losing hair, I just chopped it all off. Mm-hmm. I'm like, well, you still lose hair when you chop it all off. It's just shorter. But then she got past all of it and she's like, no, I want long hair again And I don't feel myself with. How I look so we spent hours just her talking about her life and we're together for like five hours. So within that five hours, I know a lot of stuff. So

Quincy:

any, any details you wanna share?

Misty:

I mean, it's really, I've, oh my gosh, I've had some really wild extension stories, but like one of. The wild experiences I had first come to LA and I had an extension client and. She comes from a lot of money and in Texas, but she was in LA and she was in and out of rehabs in Malibu. And she said that she calls and she said, honestly, I went on a binge and I was sleeping like somewhere not good. And I got lice all in my extensions. Oh no. And I cut them all out. So when she came in, I mean, it was wild. Wow. Whoa. And she's like, don't care how much it costs, just do it. That was like the wildest thing I've ever heard.

Quincy:

Oh my goodness. And so

Misty:

we created whatever that was so she could feel better for that moment.

Quincy:

Yeah. How is she doing now? Do you know?

Misty:

I think, well, according to her Instagram, she's been sober for quite a few months

Speaker 6:

Okay. But

Misty:

I think, um, it's just up and down. You know? She's fighting with something that has not cleared.

Quincy:

Yeah. Exactly. So those demons of using, right. Man, it's intense. Let's talk about intimacy. So when you are doing hair, when hairstylists are doing hair and you're touching people's hair, that's like the thing that strangers allow other strangers to do on the regular basis. Do you think that's the one thing that allows people to open up to you is because, well, if you've got your hands in my hair, like I can share secrets and stories and you know, all of these things with you, or do you feel like it's the amount of time, is it the intimacy or is it like the time?

Misty:

I honestly feel like it's the individual. I mean, I'll walk, walk around places and people just feel comfortable to just. Talk to me about anything and everything. And I've been with a girlfriend at Trader Joe's. She's like, what in the world? Like, you just got this stuff at Trader Joe's, like just talking to people. And them just opening up to me and just, and it just happens all the time. But that's always happened. I had a business partner in Texas and she did color. I did cut and we were like this all day long and. The client would not say a word while getting color done. As soon as they got to me, it was a release of what's happened in the last month. And they would talk and talk and just pour. And my ex-business partner would say, I dunno why they never talked to me. But I think it's just how open are you? Because no matter the stylist, some stylists aren't really that open for you to pour or to feel that close and. I mean, I even want homeless people to know that they're loved.. I mean, I don't know. It's no different than a client.

Quincy:

True. I feel like when I sit in the chair and she's touching my hair, I feel like I look ridiculous with all those foils in my hair or whatever, I feel the most confident and beautiful because I know I'm sitting there literally focusing on myself and concentrating on things that I know when I leave the chair, I'm gonna be like, oh, thank God I look so much better. So I feel having that safety for myself allows me to Basically talk to anyone in the salon about whatever they wanna talk to or talk to the next client in the other chair. You know, like I've made friends at the salon just by sitting next to them in the chair. So I think it really is a sort of disarming place that you're in when you're having someone touch your hair for hours and hours. But you're quite the entrepreneur. So let's talk about what you're working on right now. You've mentioned it to me before. I suffer from this, so I'm excited not, I wouldn't say suffer because I still think it's attractive, but as far as clothing wise, I suffer from the same affliction. If you'll.

Misty:

So I created a business called No Tulips, and No tulips started as a feminine line barrier, AKA camel toe. And it is a small camel

Speaker 6:

toe.

Misty:

Yeah. And some, I mean, they're large and in charge. Yeah. So, and some women don't mind it. And you know, when I talk to guys about this, they're like, wait, who wants to cover that up? And I'm like, well, not all girls want that to be the main attraction. We want it to be a little smooth down there. Um, and it's not always comfortable. No. And so it's definitely not

Quincy:

comfortable.

Misty:

I created no tulips and that branched from camel toe to added. Wellness and so I have no tulips barrier plus, which would prevent and kill bacteria with women that have BV UTIs. There would be a light version in the store and there's a clinical version and at the doctor's office, but it's basically for women that get UTIs often, and a lot of times it's. It starts down there. And so this would be infused with someone that kills the bacteria instantly. Or if you're a girl that has bv, that's

Speaker 6:

bacterial vaginosis, for those of you that don't know

Misty:

AKA, he's coming and you stop.

Speaker 6:

Yeah.

Misty:

Um, but,

Speaker 6:

or dirty toys,

Misty:

you know,

Speaker 6:

or

Misty:

dirty toys so to eliminate that it, well, it won't be eliminated if you keep on doing it. If you're not gonna wash your toys and he keeps coming in you, you're gonna keep buying tulips to keep the funky, fun gone, which I love. But to not do that, I mean, try not to do that. But this would help eliminate any kind of bacteria. And there's nothing on the market. This would help so many women, especially women that exercise a lot and they have these issues. They would put this in their e if they, if they're a panty wear, which I'm not. So I would peel off the adhesive and put it on my biker shorts, whatever I go to, you know, whatever I wear to the, wherever I work out. But. It would just sit where you would see camel toe. So, which is just at the top. Um, and that would be at the top of, you know, everything that keeps bacteria from moving around. And that's where we're at. So now I'm looking for investors, um, all the things to get this going. Uh, we have to have studies done. Uh, so it'll pass FDA, just all the things. But yeah, it's a great product. Not a lot of women products are created by women. And I had a Texas doctor that teamed up with me, and he's obviously a male, but he said, Mr. The majority of my clients almost always have UTIs. So if I could give them something that would help the bacteria from spreading and then constantly give them medication, he said that is where where it is. And I would love to help women with that because there's no reason why we don't have that, and I don't know why we keep having this. Issue.

Quincy:

Right, right. I, I think I've only had like maybe one or two UTIs in my whole life, but I am curious when you were saying about him, like ejaculating inside of you and things like that, what it is that men have on their penis or in their semen that causes this. You know, bloom if you will, in your vagina. And does the same thing happen, like in gay sex to men? Is that same potency, like causing your butthole to itch or, you know, something like that? So could this product, they could wear it in their briefs or, up against their fanny help with the itching or the swelling or whatever happens to guys when they get a weird bloom themselves because maybe they have bloom. I don't know. I need gay boys to chime in on this.

Misty:

Zinc is proven to kill bacteria, so I'm not sure about the backside. Mm. Uh a guy needs to take over that, that one, but

Speaker 6:

Guy or God,

Misty:

whoever is dealing with the backside part, that's where they need to focus on. But I mean, you could get. Bacteria from someone else's saliva. Mm-hmm. Indeed. I mean, that can change. DI mean, there's so many things of interchanging someone's body, right? Fluids of any form that's gonna change your insides. But the worst case is bv, which is usually just by mill sperm. That's just making us off on the inside. A lot of times that's hard, you know, for, I've, I've been with men, I've been with a man where I loved for him to do that. I don't know why I loved it so much and he loved it so much. He didn't have kids. He's never wanted kids. But there was something about him in his mind thinking, if I do this, something would happen.

Speaker 6:

Like kind of Lingus you're talking about.

Misty:

You're

Speaker 6:

talking about Lingus, like him going down on you?

Misty:

No, no, and and me.

Speaker 6:

Oh, in you? Yeah. Oh, okay. I'm sorry.

Misty:

And he would, he just, we both loved that. Like we just would get off by it. And, but I've never been with someone that, that I was like that. Um. But I've never got any BB from it or anything like that. Maybe it was just because it's not often. I don't really know, but some women might get it more than others. But the ones that do this is would kill it. Instantly, so it doesn't make it worse. So you don't have it longer than you should. Mm-hmm. Um, and for women that don't have any problems, you would wear the light version and just have no camel toe.

Speaker 6:

Nice. Nice. Yeah. So will there be different sizes for different size camel toes? Because obviously there's those skinny camel toes, but then there's, like you said, those large and in charge camel toes. How will you, well, you start like measuring people or No,

Misty:

it will be the, it's the width of panties,

Speaker 6:

so small,

Misty:

medium, large. It'll be the width of.

Speaker 6:

Thong a brief, uh, the

Misty:

little part where the, where the top of yours are, that's the width of small, medium, large. Okay. That's how long the. The little inserts are

Quincy:

Oh, okay. So they're only wide because I'm imagining that it's like a,

Misty:

it's like an upside down triangle.

Quincy:

Oh, that's kind of rounded. Okay. You know what I was thinking of? I was thinking it was the shape of, like, those eye things you put underneath your eyes for like hydration and things.

Misty:

It's, it's like this and it kind of comes

Quincy:

down. Okay.

Misty:

So this rounded part is at the top.

Speaker 6:

Ah. And

Misty:

this kind of comes down where it's not poking. It's literally like one of the scar patches. It's very smooth. Um, a little bit of cushion.

Speaker 4:

Mm-hmm.

Misty:

But, um, yeah, and you don't have to have it like next to your skin. You again, you can put in your panties. Mm-hmm. There's a lot of ways you can wear it in your swimsuit. For girls it's waterproof, I mean. I mean, just all the things. People that do gymnastics, if they don't want their little girls. Stuff to be going up there, or if it's uncomfortable, that would smooth right there.

Speaker 6:

Oh wow. This is fascinating. So how did you think of this?

Misty:

COVID, as I was trying to rack up ideas on what to do, I started swimwear and on the side I was like racking my brain of no tulips. And so that's always just sat on the side and it wasn't, and again, I do have a like pretty puffy crotch. And so a lot of times when I wear. Um, yoga pants. It's just like, whoa, yeehaw. Here she comes. Right. And so I just need something to have a barrier there, so she's not coming in the room before I do. Mm-hmm. So if I just tell me

Speaker 6:

about it.

Misty:

Get that. We're good to go.

Quincy:

Yeah. And I wonder what my mom told me this years ago. Sorry mom, if you ever listen to this, that she thought that you developed this over time. One because of age, but more because of people like, well, it would be only my dad.'cause I think it's the only person she ever had. Like oral sex with, but that it, it got sort of worn out and didn't tuck back up in there that like nothing was like tucking back in. It was just kind of staying like flacid or whatever. But I wonder what makes. Women, if you know from the research you've been doing, what makes some women have such bigger, um, labia, because I was, I had sex with someone once that had like zero labia. Mm-hmm. Like it was only the vulva and there was no like, cushion around it. And I was like, this is uncomfortable. This is really uncomfortable. It was like bone on bone, you know. Bone on teeth. Yeah. Like it was so intense and that was the first time I'd ever experienced that. But I think I like my puffy vag better than not having any puff. And it certainly, I was a gymnast, so it protected me a lot of times that I fell in the bars and the beam and things. Things like that, like having a little bit of extra. I don't wanna call it chub. Yeah. But you know, just that extra cushion, like puff, like your lips, you know? Yes. Thicker lips and thicker lips. Like they, or do they match each other? Like does it always match each other? I don't know. I haven't really paid attention until just now that I thought about it.

Misty:

I dunno.

Speaker 6:

Interesting. I mean,

Misty:

I haven't been around enough girls to know, I don't know what's going on, but. I would say even if you don't have a puffy vagina mm-hmm. And you want seamless mm-hmm. It's still for you. Right. And um, you know, I have a good friend in Texas and I mean, her labia is so much Mm. And she worries about that protruding than anything. And even that would smooth whatever that is. Um, so it kind of. Takes care of a lot of stuff.

Speaker 6:

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. So, going back to not being around many women that much, what sort of experiences have you had with other women?

Misty:

I've had one experience and, um, it was actually with a couple, and this was about six years ago. And, um. It was with an amazing couple that loved each other so much, and I met them actually years before that. And we were all in Miami and they pointed me out in a crowd and they were like, Ew. And they were a couple from Tennessee and I was super shy. And they were like, you're gonna party with us little girl. And I was like, oh no, I don't think so. Well. Oh, after time passed and I moved was I, no, I was in, still in Texas. Um, I messaged her and we would keep up. She was just so sweet and we would, she would say, anytime you're ready, we would love for you to just come out and spend the weekend. And

Quincy:

unicorn.

Misty:

Yeah. We'll get you your own space. You don't have to, you know. Be with us nonstop. And I was like, yeah, I think I'm ready to do that. I didn't know what to do or what to expect, but I knew I had always, I'm attracted to anything and everything. There's not anything that's not beautiful to me it that this is just a shell. So. I knew by their energy, I'm like, ah, they're amazing people and I think I'm in good hands. And so when I got there, we were just in sync. It was like a tribe. Um, but I learned really quick that the connection I had with her was very different from. Their normal little triangle. They have most, I think girls they bring in kind of wanted him and it was, they were catering to him, whereas I don't really care to do that. I just wanted to make her feel good. And um, and that's what it was nonstop. And so we would mess around and it became such a good friendship with all of us. And. They loved each other so much and they had been married for so long that it added, it was like a gift in their marriage of like, she's ours. This is, this is just our gift. Mm-hmm. Um, but unfortunate, unfortunately, I started dating an LA guy and I was like, I mean, this isn't long term. I can't keep. Going to Florida and um,

Quincy:

booty on the side here. Booty on the side there. Yeah. I, I don't

Misty:

wanna, I couldn't do that. I couldn't juggle all of that, but I still loved them so much and they were so hurt and this went on for a long time and he would say, you know, I just can't believe this is happening. I thought we were, you know. I'm gonna be a tribe and I'm like, oh man, I love you guys so much, but it's just not realistic. Um, so yeah, that was my, but it was a great time, but it was super, um, intimate and it was just a gift in their marriage.

Quincy:

Yeah. Yeah. How long did you guys have the relationship for the throuple?

Misty:

I would say maybe six months. Mm-hmm. That went on, yeah.

Speaker 6:

And they fell like in love, in love with you or the Yeah. Wow.

Misty:

And it, I could feel, um, she was getting a little bit more attached. Mm-hmm. And she was like, gosh, I, he's never seen me like this with someone. Mm-hmm. And, um,

Quincy:

was he uncomfortable? He

Misty:

started like being really grumpy about it and, um, and I think that was like the turnoff point. And then after a while he would kind of want my attention and. So I just You weren't into him though. Yeah. Yeah. I didn't really want that dynamic. We were both Italian and we are both fire signs, him and I. And she was just like this sweet little water sign. Oh. And so it was just a constant of two alphas kind of.

Quincy:

Oh, do you talk to them at all now? Mm-hmm. No. It was like cut. Yeah, move on. Yeah. Yeah. That's hard. We, um, not we, me, I was in a relationship with someone and we had an open relationship together. Where we would the same thing, like we would be traveling and we would see somebody that was interesting to us, or fun and flirty or whatever she was, and we would invite her over to hang out with us and things like that. And the dynamic was always so much fun, you know, because we, they didn't know us from blazes, we didn't know them, so there wasn't any jealousy, you know, even if we did end up hooking up with that person, we just, it was safe. Right. Until. One time, well, maybe twice the person fell for me and not actually three times, not her. And they would specifically say, we only wanna be with you and not her. And I was like, well, it's not gonna work like that. Like we are a package deal. And I. I can't do that. Like I'm not gonna do that sort of thing to her because I love her and I care about her. And we like this. And it wasn't like we did this all the time, you know? Like we did it on occasion, but when it happened, it was really, really fun. Mm-hmm. You know, so many. Like, not that many emotions, but so much, um, passion. Mm-hmm. Right? Like passion and beauty. And I remember sometimes thinking outside of my body, like just watching the three of us together and going, holy shit, I never knew that this was gonna be part of my story. You know? And I really, really grew from it too, because it made me realize that being attracted to people, you can be attracted to more than one person. When you're in a relationship like that. But when I'm in a relationship where the other person does not want that, it never crosses my mind, you know? Mm-hmm. So it's, it's interesting how he, as he saw her falling for you. Yeah. It changed the dynamic and the same thing. But it would happen for me. It would change my dynamic towards other people. I was like, well, I'm not interested in anyone because this isn't gonna happen with this person. You know? And I don't sit there going, oh, I wish I could have that kind of relationship again, because it was probably once in a lifetime. If it happens, it has to happen spontaneously. Like even when I first started dating her, it wasn't like, oh, we're gonna travel the world and hook up with women around the world. It wasn't that. You know, organically kind of started happening and we were let, we talked about it and said, oh yeah, let's keep doing that. So, I know you don't use any pronouns, correct. Why? And what what do I, how do you identify?

Misty:

Um, I identify as Misty Marie, and I don't believe in pronouns because. I feel like that's programming, that's programming that still people aren't noticing are programming. It still keeps you in a box that you don't even have to be in because you're infinite. There's no dog tags.

Speaker 4:

Hmm.

Misty:

Um, and when you start putting Mr. Mrs, he, she, it is, all of that is irrelevant. They're dog tags and I, in every lifetime that I've ever lived, I've been every sex. And so I'm internally interchangeable so there's no dog tags. So in this lifetime I identify as Misty Marie, and that's what I identify as.

Speaker 6:

Oh, that is so interesting. So how many other lifetimes do you think that you've had so far?

Misty:

We will never know, but I feel everyone we meet, we've met them, we're all recycled. This is only my belief. Um, I feel we've all met someone at some point in time and, and think of how millions of

Quincy:

years our. Known him in another lifetime

Misty:

at some point, you know? And so I don't know, in another lifetime I could have been. You know, a dad, I could have been a whatever, but I don't have any kind of dog tag or label box.

Speaker 4:

Mm-hmm.

Misty:

And it drives me wild when I see people do that. Mm-hmm. And I think if they notice what box that kept them in and they could free themselves of that.

Speaker 4:

Mm. And

Misty:

so many people get so upset of. Well, they're not calling me by what I identify as well. They're not going to because that's what you identify as it is. It is. You're not gonna make them believe what you wanna believe, that it's just not gonna happen. And I feel like if we just took that away and if you understood. That you are infinite and you have been all of them, and you don't need a dog tag for us to know that you're hot shit.

Speaker 4:

Mm-hmm.

Misty:

And you're, he, she, them, they, I, I don't give a fuck what it is. Because I love the ball of light that I've always loved interchangeably, whatever that's been animal human. I don't know what you've been in all the lives, but I love all of it, and there's no label for any of it.

Speaker 6:

So when you talked to your kids about that, did you, like when you were, have you believed in this since you've had your first child? Did you say, oh, I'm having a girl, I'm having a boy. Like at what point did you adopt the, or accept, rather not adopt it, but accept this knowledge of infinite beings?

Misty:

I would say I started shedding programming. Around the time I moved to la and I think by just opening my eyes, I mean, come on in Texas, you're not around a lot of stuff that you see here. Right. And you are so programmed and you don't know how programmed you really are until you get out of it. And so. I mean, gosh, my nana thought Jesus was blue hair, blue eyed up until not that long ago. Wow. And I'm like, Nana, he, he was Middle Eastern, you know what I mean? Yeah. I'm like, but she, it's their programming. So I didn't know what I didn't know until I came here and when my kids were growing up, I never really thought about it. But it wasn't until I gathered my own thoughts and um, just. Did my own self-help research, try to unprogram everything. I've been programmed since a child and a lot of us have had so much programming we don't even know. Um, even to the point of some of us have to have sweet when we wake up. It's just our programming, um, what we've been programmed to do. Um,

Speaker 6:

what is sweet when you wake up?

Misty:

Like. A lot of us grew up with having something sweet in the morning.

Speaker 6:

Oh, that's what you mean, okay. Yeah. Like sugar. Yeah. Okay.

Misty:

That's programming. Yeah. And um, like my nana, even now, she will have to have something sweet as soon as she gets up. Well, she's also diabetic. Mm. So it hasn't, but it is her, and I'm like, Nana, this is your programming. I'm program it so it'll help your health.

Speaker 4:

Mm-hmm.

Misty:

But they don't. They just say, well, it's what I've always done. I know,

Speaker 6:

right. So what are some other things, going back to what was different in Texas versus la, what are some of the most striking differences that Texans believe in?'cause what do they think in Texas? It feels like, I mean, obviously they think California's is its own country. But Texas is its own country too. Yes, by far. Yeah. What goes on there,

Misty:

you know, Texas. There's different parts of it, but the majority of Texans were all, and this is really wild, but we're all raised to be super like headstrong and there's not a lot of babying growing up and there's not a lot of talking through. There's a lot of tie your shoes, let's go. You're gonna be good. Mm-hmm. And a lot of us are raced that way and so. It creates a lot of numbness to a lot of things. Um, but it also pushes you through a lot and lets you kind of go to the next step instead of constantly focusing on negative. Um, I would say some, I mean, just like here it's some people are so far one way and. They're never gonna come out of it because it's their programming. So there's no talking to that. And just like here, some are way on this other side. There's no coming out of that. So I guess it just depends on who you surround yourself with. But the majority of Texans want to have. A religious state. And I think when people realize what religious states are and what that means, that should tell you if you wanna live there or not. And religious states, those like-minded people live there. So if you're not like-minded, you don't wanna live there, you know? Um, but I wouldn't say there's no right or wrong, it's just what works for your own life and your own. Believe system. I mean, my brother plays Jesus at church. My brother is blonde haired, green eyes, no way, shape or form does he look like Jesus, but in his life, that works for him. Um. And a lot of people in Texas, religion works for them. They have to have it, but it's a lot of times they're programming that they have to have it.

Speaker 4:

Mm.

Misty:

But if they knew that it was just inside of them and it's not a person, it is God is just everything.'cause we're, we are the creation. Nonstop. It's an infinite loop of nonstop and it's, there's no man that's gonna come show up tomorrow, you know? They'll keep believing that. Right? Because that's the story they're sold. But, um, that's Texas.

Speaker 6:

But I, my, my parents are very, very Christian religious, and they say things to my daughter like, you know, when Jesus comes, he's gonna save everyone that believes in him. And she looks at me and she goes, mom, is that really true? And I said, you know, I don't know exactly what is true, but what I would believe if I had to at that moment. Think that if this person is so good and so quote unquote godly and loves everyone and died for these people's sins, that he's gonna save everyone because he loves everyone.

Speaker 3:

Yeah.

Speaker 6:

Or she loves everyone or it loves everyone, you know, and it's so hard for me to like let her be sort of afraid of that. You know, and not afraid that she's not gonna get saved, but afraid that her grandparents don't think that she's gonna be saved because we don't believe in a Christian God. And it may or may not bother her, but I don't ever want, and I need to probably talk to them about it and just say, Hey, can you. Let her know that you know, you love her and you accept her regardless if she believes in, you know, almighty God, the Holy Spirit, Jesus Christ. Amen. Kind of God, uh, she goes to a Jewish school. You know, so it's a totally different teaching, right? We're still talking about the Old Testament and things like that, but it's not Jesus. Jesus hasn't come yet according to Jews, right? Or whoever it is. I don't even know if they use the word Jesus in, you know, at all. But, um. It's, yeah, I, I have traveled through Texas and have friends in Austin, which seems like an absolute bubble and I love it there, but at the same time, I'm like, how do you function outside of Austin Yeah. Austin is not Texas.

Misty:

Austin is not Texas. And I will tell you the biggest. Difference that I see living here is the streets are clean.

Speaker 6:

Mm. Clean here.

Misty:

Clean in Texas. Oh, okay. Um, it's all manicured. Mm. You don't see sexual billboards. Mm. Which raising kids sometimes. It's just wild that you. Sex stuff on a billboard as soon as you come out of your house and you're just

Speaker 6:

like, that one show. Was it on Netflix Dying for Sex? Yeah. Like that was everywhere in our town, right? Yes. Right here in our town. And I'm like, I go, wow. I, I wonder what that story's about. And I still haven't watched it, but. I mean, obviously she's dying. She's hooked up to an iv, but, and she's dying, but why did they put that around town, near our schools and all these other things

Misty:

For a lot of us parents that keep our kids. Interaction with media world to a limit, stuff like that drives me bonkers. Mm-hmm. Because I already try to protect them with what I can control. And then there's a billboard saying dime for sex and that my son has to look at every day. Um, so that's kind of one of the things that really drives me nuts. Um. Beyond that, uh, you don't really see a lot of homeless. Mm. But I guess if you were to be homeless, this is a great place to go. I mean, you're in prime real estate, having a tent on Santa Monica Beach.

Speaker 4:

Mm-hmm.

Misty:

It doesn't get any better if I were homeless, that's a. Incredible life,

Speaker 6:

Yeah. Right. Well, and you know the stories that when they check out of their mental institution or jail or whatever, that they give them one-way bus tickets to California? No. Yes, they do that because they know that they will be able to live here. That. One, because there's money. People are willing to give you money on the side of the street. Even if 200 cars pass, somebody's still, you're still gonna end up making$20 at the end of the day. You can buy some food, you can, I don't know what kind of drugs you can buy with$20, but, and you're not gonna freeze to death. And you're not gonna burn to death because there's shade and you, you know, we open up a shelter when it gets to, I think it's. 40 degrees or something like that, in the winter. So they just shipped them here and they were doing it for a while to Hawaii too, but they were flying them in. Oh, wow. Yeah,

Misty:

dunno anything about that. But I do know you're not gonna see homeless people like that in Texas.

Speaker 6:

Well, how are they taking care of them?

Misty:

The police make them go somewhere. Like you, you have to get off the street. You cannot be in the street.

Speaker 6:

Wow, that's interesting.

Misty:

So when we first moved here I'd never seen so many homeless. And there's, I mean, at Thanksgiving I'll take, you know, I'll find the perfect homeless person for a pie. You know? And I've had wild interactions, and my grandparents would be just like, Misty, we just worry about you going up to these homeless people. And I'm like, why? I, there's just no fear in me with anything, and I try to push that with my kids. Mm-hmm. Nonstop. Like I, that's the worst thing is for my kids to have fear about something and I know they do. It's natural. Um, but that drives me nuts.

Quincy:

Yeah, there was this homeless lady, two years ago or something like that, and I was driving by and I stopped the stoplight and I looked over to the side and she was wadding up rags and putting'em in her shorts. And her shorts were all bloody. And I was like, oh shit. And I was on my way to Target and I was like, I'm gonna buy her underwear. I'm gonna buy her shorts and buy her pads and I'm gonna come back and give it to her. So I went and did my stuff. I brought all these things back to her and I pulled up and I got out and I said, you know, I saw you about an hour ago and I noticed that you're on your period. I said, look, I got you underwear and shorts and pads. And she goes. Oh my goodness. Thank you honey, so much. She gave me this huge hug. She said, I have not worn a pad in years. Thank you. And just those little things that we can do right to help people. Like you said, finding a pie on Thanksgiving. They may or may not know that that particular day is Thanksgiving, right? Because, I don't know, are you keeping a calendar when you don't have a place to live? But we,, we try to save our leftovers and when we're driving down the street, I'll put my hand out the door. And you know, here's a bag of food.'Cause that's, to me an important thing to do,? And people say, oh, you're helping keep them homeless, or whatever. And I'm like, no, I'm helping them eat a meal that they're not going to get food poisoning over with tonight when they dig through the trash for something to eat. And maybe they don't. The teeth to chew on the steak or something like that, but it still tastes good, you know, and you can gna on it for a while and you can get some protein from it. I had a friend in college that,, her thesis project was on homelessness and to write the story, she. Literally voluntarily became homeless for a year. And she learned like what it was like where you sleep. When you sleep, obviously you sleep in the day because it's safe at night. You're like basically fighting for your life. With the other homeless people. But nine months into it hurts. Teeth started to get loose, her skin turned yellow. She wasn't getting enough nutrients her hair was falling out. All of these things from voluntarily, claiming homelessness to write this paper. And it was so fascinating what she learned and how it changed my perspective on a lot of people that I see that are homeless you can definitely tell people that are using, right?'cause they're. Asleep on the corner, and I mean like dead asleep. Not just like asleep, like dead asleep, um, that have been forced to be homeless or live in their car because they can't afford to live in California. And I'm thinking to myself, it would be nice to go to another state, but if you go to another state, like you said, you're forced to go someplace else. Whereas here definitely things have cleaned up a lot and over the past year I've noticed, but how do you, when you don't have a choice. You all these bad things start happening to you obviously can't afford to go to the doctor or insurance or to eat three square meals a day that you can't put judgment on everyone. Maybe they're still going to work every day. I saw a guy, my washer and dryer broke down a couple weeks ago. I was at the laundromat. This guy was in there telling me this whole story about where he works and everything, and he clearly lived out of his car. He was washing his clothes in the laundromat. His whole car was filled with his whole entire life. But he had a job that he went to. Obviously he doesn't pay the bills, but he was clean, cut and ready to go to work. But if you saw everything else, you'd be like, oh my gosh. But you can't judge people, right? Because you don't know the shoes that they walked in.

Misty:

I mean, one of my good friends when I first moved here, he drives a Ferrari but was not getting along with his wife and lived in his Ferrari and would just shower Equinox. Like slept in there and, but he, that was like his home and his office, everything. Driving that car around and sleeping in it.

Quincy:

Wow.

Misty:

Yeah,

Speaker 6:

you just, you never know.

Misty:

And I will tell you, I, this happened last year. I was sitting on my patio and there was a homeless guy in front of my condo and he was putting trash bags, like in an equal amount from each other. And he was counting steps, doing all this stuff, trash bags everywhere. He took trash bags out of our dumpster and he's just putting in random spots. And I'm watching it and he finally looks up and he goes, oh, sorry I didn't see you there. I'm not gonna hurt you. And I said, that was my least of my worries, that you're gonna hurt me. I'm just making sure you're gonna pick all this up. And he said, oh, yes ma'am, I will. And as soon as he said that, I said, where are you from? And he said, I'm from Texas, ma'am. And I said. I motherfucker, I'm from Texas too, and why are you out here homeless? And he said, it's a long story and he got talking on this long story, but he's insanely smart. But basically, um, he's from a real small town in Texas that I've done weddings in. His brother is a huge football coach and he came out to his family that he was gay and totally got disowned and just left.

Speaker 4:

Wow. And he's,

Misty:

he said, honestly, I didn't expect to be homeless for this long. It's just, he's like, I don't know what day I'm on anymore. And so we talked for a bit and then weeks went by and I saw him on the corner of a street, like trying to cross. I'm like, Cody, what in the world you're trying to cross? Where are your shoes? And he was like, oh, and he would have this wall story. He's like. I'm working at this construction site down the street. I mean, no shoes, no shirt. And I said, have you eaten? And he goes, I have. He's never asked. He never asked me for one thing. I said, I have this bar in my car. Will you just put it in your pocket

Speaker 4:

when you

Misty:

get hungry later, eat it. He goes, I'll eat it. And takes the bar and I said, what is your last name? You never even told me. Well, I was asking, so I was about to look up his family and he tells me his last name. I look up the family on Facebook, message the brother in Texas. I send a voice memo and I'm like, my name is Misty Marie. I'm from Texas. I'm living in la. Found your brother. I don't know if you're looking for him. He is homeless, but he is. Okay. And they called me back and they were like, sweet. You know, sometimes he calls when he's in a shelter, but he hasn't called in like five years. Oh, wow. We didn't know where he had gone. Um, and I talked to them for quite some time and I told him the story of when I met him talking about, are you gonna pick up the trash bags? And they said, oh, he won't ask for a dime. He won't ask for anything. But he just literally wants to live how he wants to live. They said they've asked him to come back, they've apologized, but. I mean, one, when things happen, sometimes it triggers something and people, and they can't come back from it. Mm-hmm. And you have to know how to come back from something you have to, to get through life. And some people are just stuck in that loop of what's happened. And they can't get out of it. And so I haven't seen him in a long time, but Mm. Yeah.

Speaker 6:

Wow.

Misty:

I will become friends with anybody.

Speaker 6:

Yeah, I love that. I love that so much. Well, thank you for coming on the show. Where can people find you? Where can they help you with finding financing for your or seed round or what have you? For tulips? No tulips,

Misty:

they can email me at the Misty marie at gmail com. I'm on Instagram at the Misty Marie and my. Hair business is by Misty Marie. My swimwear is Misty Marie swim. I have so many branches, but of all of it, the Misty marie@gmail.com.

Speaker 3:

Okay. Awesome. Thank you so much. Thank

Misty:

you. Yay.

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